“OH MARTIN! I just can’t stand your mood changes.” “MARTIN! I feel like you’re punishing me for everything I say!” “FOR FUCK’S SAKE, MARTIN. I feel like nothing is good enough.” They’re not talking about you. You see, when you start to change, to make yourself better, you highlight what others think they ‘should’ do …
The key to a great life is being able to SEE! Intelligence is about making connections, things that others either don’t see or DON’T WANT to see. Intelligence is also understanding how THE TRUTH will peacefully and joyfully benefit the greatest amount of people. Growing up, I did so many things for attention, to try …
Don’t you notice people sleepwalking their way through life? On their phones, heads down, almost like they’re apologising for themselves, looking for meaning? To be successful, you’ve got to be conscious – to understand how things really work. When I’ve had a few days of not writing this blog (in this case it’s been nigh …
No getting around it, it’s hard to take responsibility. People very close to me called me a radicalised, conspiracy theorist during Covid for having a different opinion. Others quipped “Oh, I’ve noticed you always take the differing opinion.” Nope, I just do my own thinking. Most don’t think – it’s too fucking dangerous to do …
People are so terribly inconvenient, aren’t they! All those preferences and different ways of doing things. Terribly annoying. Here’s the thing though, why does it matter? Why do you care? Are you hiding from something? Are you being a perfectionist – unable to admit you dislike the inevitable mess of getting yourself sorted mentally and …
It’s so easy to sell yourself short. Do you downgrade your dreams? Do you try to convince yourself that you can ‘make do’? Dream big, scary, fuck-off dreams. Put yourself in a position where you can’t fail. Dream the real dream.
There are two ‘F’ words that you should value highly. The first, Freedom! And Flexibility Rules are so constricting, principles are liberating. When you look back on your life, do you care that you went out for a walk at twelve in the afternoon on day and nine in the morning another? No, you value …
Perhaps it was growing up with a dad who was perpetually doing DIY but the smell of paint is associated with progress for me. Perhaps you think it is covering up the cracks but here’s the lesson. To do a paint job well, the vast majority of the work is preparing the surface. You fill. …
Question what YOU really want? Question why you do what you do? Are you trying to please people? Are your desires your own or are you trying to get people approval from others? Boundaries are good but scary because they mean saying no and not getting that false sense of approval from other people. Start …
Each time I log into the document where I house all my blog posts, I check down at the word count. I’m rather impressed with myself these days at my writing efforts! I started this blog to get things off my chest, I felt I had something (well many things) to say, actually and so …