“OH MARTIN! I just can’t stand your mood changes.”
“MARTIN! I feel like you’re punishing me for everything I say!”
“FOR FUCK’S SAKE, MARTIN. I feel like nothing is good enough.”
They’re not talking about you.
You see, when you start to change, to make yourself better, you highlight what others think they ‘should’ do that they haven’t.
When you improve and they stay the same…..
THEY realise they could be doing more.
THEY realise they could be doing better.
THEY realise they’re all talk.
And don’t worry, you’ll find this with most people. Really!
For the time being, I’ve chosen to focus on what I want in life, the kind of person I want to be and from that point decide and ATTRACT who I really want to be with.
Remember, people will try to blame you for not treating them well but they are more than happy to treat you like shit.
AND! Beware of turning things into what they’re not. I made the mistake of idealising my ex, of creating an image of him that didn’t exist and placing him on a pedestal so high it was impossible to live up to.
We are all flawed human beings, with authoritarian leanings, controlling desires and tyrannical tendencies. Forgive yourself for this stuff and get on with YOUR life.
You will never change people.
People will always put themselves first, whether they realise it or not.
If the good outweighs the bad, you are actually doing pretty well!