BLOGGING, IMPOSTOR SYNDROME AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT! 

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You want to make money with your blogging, right?

Well! 

This is why we’ll have to delve into those grey cells of yours and figure out why that hasn’t happened yet!

The truth is your mind is a veritable storm of emotions, neuroses and hangups that are holding you.

So this article is for you if you actually want to 

  • master your blogging craft
  • ENJOY it and
  • make some lovely dosh from it. 

Let’s dive straight into the dirt.

Don’t be afraid to SELL

Right, my little munchkin, you want to make money but you don’t want to sell. Hmmmm! How’s that going to work out?

SELL truly is a literal and figurative four letter word.

I’m an Englishman and we have terrible hangups about money, earning it and showing others how to do it.

Don’t do this.

Money is a means of exchange. Nothing more, nothing less.

If you’re afraid of money, likelihood? You don’t feel you have anything of value to offer. Which of course is bollocks.

The truth is there is stuff you know more than other people, you’re just being a perfectionist. You don’t have to be an ‘expert’ or a ‘goooroooo’ or a total master, you just need to brave and share your experience and your knowledge. 

And do it honestly. People buy from those they, you know it….know, like and trust, right? Well, if you’re open and honest (and a little vulnerable too!), people will flock to you, especially when you do it consistently.

This brings me to the next point.

Crippling Embarrassment

This is somewhere I’m sure you’ve been, me too!

It feels cripplingly embarrassing to share on social media. 

“Who the fuck does this guy think he is? Leonardo da Vinci!”

Guess how it also feels cripplingly embarrassing – asking for help. Yep, another of most vulnerable positions to put yourself in is admitting either

You’ve been making things up as you go along and they haven’t worked.

There is something you don’t know.

I know for sure the biggest catalyst for my recent success is asking for help – from people who have actually achieved what I want to achieve and know HOW to do it!

So!……….. 

Do it Badly

I know, cringe-o-rama!

STOP Worrying about what people think of you. It’s a prison you can never escape. 

Trying to please other people or trying to establish what they’re thinking is pointless even if you could find out! Leave ‘em to it and live your own life.

I always laughed at the joke. “The beautiful thing about being paranoid is knowing someone is always thinking of you.”

Doing it badly” means abandoning perfectionism and embracing progress.

T. Harv Eker say, “Every master was once a disaster.”

  • You’re worried about looking stupid – don’t. No one gives a shit, only you.
  • You’re worried about making mistakes – don’t, there are no mistakes, only education.
  • You’re worried you won’t be able to do it – patience and practice will see you through.

Doing it badly” also means you’ll have to be kinder to yourself. 

Two quotes from me.

“There is no right or wrong way, there is only your way.”

“The only thing that makes a difference is action.”

Stop comparing yourself to other people.

“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”

– Oscar Wilde

The crux of all of this is……

Success loves speed.

You’ve probably heard this before but remember that speed is NOT haste. Don’t rush, progress and work your way through your essential tasks as peacefully as possible.

I always say that stress is the enemy of success.

I don’t have regrets, the greatest things for me have all resulted from every single thing I have done AND haven’t done. But, if I were to offer any advice, start sooner rather than later.

There is no doubt I could be in a very different financial situation at least if I had listened to wiser people around me and gotten moving quicker.

Earlier, we covered asking for help – the variant of “Success loves speed” is

Success leaves clues.

Learning how to master any skill and rake in the cash is actually very simple but you have to ask yourself this…

“Why am I making this SO difficult for myself?” and also pose the question…

“Why am I denying myself good things?”

Do you honestly believe that…

All rich people are scammers?

Money is the root of all evil?

That only horrible people make money?

For fuck’s sake, MAN UP and get it done. What use are you to anyone if you’re poor, miserable and pathetic?

Ask yourself honestly what could possibly have lead you to want to deny your potential and be financially free and live an independent life. Only you can do it.

Reminder – hard work, not easy, totally worth it! Patience is a virtue.

In order to get your just rewards,

You have to want to win.

Yep, you heard it right. I’m going to repeat it, it’s so important – YOU have to WANT to WIN! It’s a decision and if you’re not where you want to be, you’re deciding to NOT WIN.

Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt, bitch!

The Impostor Syndrome Checklist

Here’s a list I made up of why you may feel like an impostor.

  • You won’t ask for help
  • You feel you’ve wasted time
  • You feel embarrassed or unworthy
  • You’re a great ‘starter’ but a shit ‘finisher’
  • You’ve tried many things but don’t ever get results
  • You feel your family/friends don’t support what you’re doing

Sound familiar? Are you getting the idea?

Ways of tackling Impostor Syndrome Checklist

And here’s a list I made up of how you can start making progress!

  • Ask for help! Ask for help!
  • Find your own rhythm and pace.
  • Acknowledge any progress you’ve made.
  • You were born to win, enjoy freedom – please God earn it.
  • Start finishing things by learning to be patient and consistent.
  • It’s not the opportunity that matters, it’s learning to enjoy the process.
  • Fuck what people think, yes, really! Start living your own life my friend!

The Honest Truth

Everything I’ve talked about above boils down to being…

  • More resilient
  • More consistent
  • Able to ask for help!
  • Genuinely kinder to yourself.
  • Open and coachable in the techniques that work
  • Open and coachable from people who’ve actually done what you want.

The reason 99% don’t take this on is because it is incredibly humbling when you set out on the adventure to realise your greatness.

“The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off.”

Learn to let go of what doesn’t matter.

I’ve beaten myself up so brutally AND so relentlessly that I’m only just understanding the extent of it. Start being kinder to yourself so you can get out of your own way.

Your lack of success is totally down to you. Whether you like it or not, you’ve chosen to be in your current position, for whatever reason – don’t regret it, accept it and move on.

I will say it again – you will never be wealthy and useful to people when you constantly chastise yourself at the altar of what you believe others think about you. Let that go too.

I want to hear from you

  • What is the worst way you beat yourself up?
  • What form does your impostor syndrome take?
  • Who would you be if you gave yourself a break and allowed yourself to win?

Let me know down below and I look forward to hearing from you very soon!

Be great! Make yourself great!


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7 thoughts on “BLOGGING, IMPOSTOR SYNDROME AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT! ”

  1. Hi Martin,

    REALLY good post. The grey matter cells you speak of are those unconscious beliefs that rule our lives. Unconsciously, bloggers fail or succeed. Top pros often have no idea that their mindset set the tone for being generous, patient, persistent and confident. Struggling bloggers have absolutely no clue that their unconscious fears create their failure.

    Consciously, most bloggers talk a big game. They want to be rich! But in the next breath they fear losing $300 on a domain and hosting for the year. How can you consciously allow millions of dollars to flow to you if you unconsciously fear losing $300 USD? LOL! Most people unconsciously fear losing $35 via a $35 monthly credit card payment. Jeff Bezos went $100 million into debt to build Amazon. Different mindset. Different universe in terms of wealth accumulation. One dude overcame his fear of going $100 million into the hole to build something epic; most people deeply fear being 35 bucks in the hole for 1 month because they live in survival mode with no clear purpose. Mindset made the difference.

    Rooting out and letting go fears fueling Imposter Syndrome is a critical step to becoming a pro blogger. Excellent job on pinpointing some key culprits.

    Ryan

    1. Wow Ryan. Thank you so much for this wonderful comment!

      You are so right. Getting the head into gear and out of fear is quite a rare thing but when you get fully invested in yourself, the rewards both financial and emotional are transformational and awe-inspiring.

      The example of Bezos is so apt! He so obviously had a clear vision and he went for it, no holds barred and believed in himself. Rare, the techniques apply to anyone willing to use them.

      Your comment, like you, is so generous. Thank you so much!

      Martin.

  2. James Bartram

    Love this Martin, thanks so much for sharing!

    You know, I have serious imposter syndrome in most areas of life and I used to have it big time in the online business world too…. fortunately, through a lot of what you said in your checklist of how to tackle imposter syndrome, I managed to overcome it!

    But man…..I can totally see how it stops people moving forward!

    This is why super valuable articles like this can truly help people…

    Awesome Martin! Keep it up man… great writing (and reading)!

    James

    1. You’re an inspiration James, thank you so much.

      It feels so good to share ways of overcoming feeling unworthy. I certainly have felt massive impostor syndrome too and understand how restrictive it feels.

      It’s an incredible blessing to me to have you, Glenn and Dean as mentors. I honestly feel like anything is possible.

      Thank you for your lovely comment and your beautiful support.

      Martin

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