In order to win, you must prime your mind. Are you set up for success or are you falling prey to the psychological traps that I’ve laid out below. Remember, you are where you are but that does not mean you can improve the way you think and the way you behave. Let’s dive in and remember to leave a comment on what your mental struggles are so we can help each other out.
You don’t deserve Success.
Thought I’d start with a brutal one – this is what most people think. We are taught to comply, I’m going to come onto people pleasing in the next section but what you don’t realise is that you have a fear of success, you are afraid of not having excuses!
Most are too afraid to admit this but, if you’re reading this, there is a reason why you’re holding yourself back. What is the reason? It’s a question worth sitting with and establishing the answer.
You’re a People Pleaser.
Nobody knows more than me what it’s like to live to please other people. Consider this however – who is the most important person in your life? No, not your parents. No, not your siblings. No, not your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, colleagues. IT’S YOU!
“BUT Martin! That’s so selfish!”
Anyone who calls you selfish wants something out of you. They want you to do whatever they want, they want you to agree with everything they say, do exactly as they say.
If you don’t care about yourself, why should anyone else?
You overcomplicate things.
Life is about balance but are you living in a hyper-materialistic way? Is stuff more important to you than experience? Most people will add things into the mix but life is an onion, designed to be stripped of unnecessary beliefs and actions and SIMPLIFIED! Trying to spread yourself too thin is making you stressed. You can’t be everything to everyone. You have to be true to you.
You’re in too much of a hurry, so stressed!
Just like people who say you’re selfish are the ones who want something out of you, this goes for people who say you have so little time.
Most people are children in adult bodies, they want you to race after them, make them feel special or noticed. It’s a fucking nightmare! Life moves with you, at the pace you’re moving at. If you’re stressed, you’re not going to do good work. I’ve learned the vital importance of ‘slowing down to speed up’. There is no rush. Busy is not the same as productive.
You believe the world is against you.
The truth is, the world does not care about you. The reason you are not exactly where you want to be is because YOU are against you, in some little ways and some big ways. I remind people often that life is an inside out game. You have a unique perspective on the world and you will see the world not as it is but as you see yourself.
If you constantly tell yourself the world is against you, you will be against you, so simple.
What can you do then?
Well, you can start by being kinder to yourself. Stop torturing yourself. What has passed has passed and cannot be undone, rather, it can be embraced and you can take the lessons from your experiences to improve and simplify your life.
Second, have a strategy in place. What steps can you take to achieve your dreams?
Thirdly, surround yourself only with good people BUT take time to listen to people, try and understand them and adopt powerful and positive patterns of behaviour to improve yourself.
Thank you for reading this far, let me know in the comments which of these is your most troubling limiting belief. What else would you add? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.
Have an uplifted day!